On a More Serious Note

Every Friday night, my husband, my mother-in-law and myself sit down and have dinner together. We have a chance to catch up on stuff that happened during the week. Most times, we laugh and pick on each other. Not tonight.

I did a blog that jumped on the Catholic Church.  I believe that the church should stay out of politics. Mainly because I am a woman. I believe that women should be able to determine what is best for them.  I am afraid that if religion plays a part in our government, a lot of women and girls could be in serious trouble.

The whole debate over birth control has got me thinking. My mother-in-law thinks that we shouldn't have to pay for it, that we need more morals and less birth control. I agree with the morals, not the less birth control. This is always a slippery slope when you have two opposing opinions in the same house. She was raised as a Catholic, and she also was born in a era that didn't have what we have now. I was a teenage mother, my mother and father didn't talk about sex or birth control with me until it was too late.

My neighbor and my husband chimed in on this subject. My husband is in the middle, my neighbors opinion bordered on a civil rights removal.  With so many different opinions out there on the matter, who is right? How do you make the majority happy without offending the minority?

I personally would tell every kid in America,  Wait. Wait until you are married. Be a responsible adult before you become a parent. To girls, have respect for yourself. Your life is in your hands, think about the consequences before you give yourself away. Wait until you are old enough to except what happens. Fall in love first, and I don't mean at 18, I mean after you are out of school and doing what makes you happy first. To the boys, same thing. Fall in love, make life for yourself before you commit to someone else. Believe in yourself. 

Now for those who wont wait, don't be stupid about it. Protect yourself and the one your with. Show at least that much respect for yourself and them.  There is so much out there, you can never be sure. Talk to your parents, if you cant, call your local clinic. Get informed. The best prevention is abstinence, if that isn't enough, the second best prevention is being informed. 

To the parents of kids today, talk to your kids. Listen to your kids. Be involved in what they are doing, know where they are going.  Find out who they are and what their dreams are, and help them reach their goals. Tell them no every now and then. Tell them your hopes and dreams for them, even if its not the same as their dreams. Take pride in you kids. No matter who they turn out to be.

If you talk to your kids about consequences, don't throw your beliefs in there, give them the facts.  You have raised them with your beliefs. If you push, it could backfire. Get on the internet, get news articles, show them what could happen. Kids are a lot smarter then most people give the credit for. Inform them, but don't just show one side, show them all.  This way, no matter what they decide to do, you have armed them with knowledge. That is the greatest gift you can give your kids. 

To the politicians out there, have the courtesy to put the greater good before your beliefs or you political agenda. You are putting lives at risk.  All the time we spend fighting about this, a girl or a woman is dealing with the dilemma of having a baby, or getting rid of a baby. If you let the church decide what is considered in women's health care, you risk more than the vote of some, you risk the lives of many.

Just a note before I go.  I do believe in God.  God and I have an understanding, I talk, he listens, he understands. Never in the whole time I have spent talking to him, he has never told me what I can or cannot do. He leaves that up to me.  Take the time to consider all the possibilities. 

Everyone has a right to their opinion. This is just mine. Thanks for taking the time to read it.

Melissa

Shut up Damn it!!!!!

Disclaimer- This is just my opinion.


I was in class last week, trying to learn something. I thought that is what going to college was all about.  Now seeing that I am an older adult, I go in and act like an adult. I sit, take notes, participate in class discussions.  Now you would think this was just like its suppose to be, in college. I had two people in this class that were talking about everything else except the what was going on in class. This got me thinking about all the people I would love to see stop talking.


Lately I feel that most people need to shut the hell up.  I want to start with every one of the republican candidates. Please shut the hell up.  You are not going to get elected to the highest office in the country, you know this, and its all your own faults. You are so busy bashing each other you have lost the big picture. You don't have a clue as to what this country needs. Mitt has too much money, Newt is a swinger, Ron is too damn old, and Rick, I have one statement for you, Birth Control. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, stop telling me what mine should be. To the Republican Candidates, Shut the Hell Up Damn It!!!!!!  


The Catholic Church needs to shut the hell up damn it. Stay out of my government, I don't want you there, you don't belong there, and if I wanted to be dictated to I would have stayed married to my ex-husband.  Okay, I am for same sex marriage, and as Bill Maher said, once your married its all the same sex anyway, why should they be any different.  I am for the insurance companies having to cover birth control, no matter if the company they are covering is a religious organization. It's a shame they don't see that there are so many dumb ass women out there that should not reproduce. I think god might agree with me on this.  I should know, He told me. (if you don't get that, ask George Bush)  


Bill O'Reilly needs to shut the fuck up. If that man had a half of a brain, he would be dangerous, better yet it would be an improvement. Better yet just keep your foot in your mouth. Nancy Grace needs to shut the hell up so other people can talk.  You ever watch her show. If you don't agree with her, she cuts you off like Lorranea Bobbit.  Mitt Romney, Please shut the hell up. Nobody likes you and your a Moron, oops I mean Mormon. We don't care what you think. Sarah Palin, I don't know where to start with you. I am really wondering though, what the hell was in your tea at the tea party. Shut the fuck up! Roseanne Barr, Shut the hell up, your voice is grating and annoying.  I get more laughs in a deaf community than you get with people who can hear you. And most of all, Kim Kardashian, We don't care about your 72 day marriage, your boob job, your perfume line, your clothing line or anything else that you have in store for your adoring public. Most people cant afford your cloths, your perfume smells like horseshit, and your chest gets where your going a week before you actually get there. You don't have a brain, so don't act like you do. Oh that's right, you cant act either. You need to Shut the Fuck up damn it!!!!!  


You see, this is what is wrong with our country.  All the people I named are who you see everyday see in the media. There are also people who you want to tell to shut the hell up everyday.  Go ahead, talk about your sex life, as long as you don't talk about it in the line at the grocery store. Talk about how you puked at a party, just not in my class that I am paying for. Talk about your drug addiction, not when I am trying to pay for gas.   You see, if you do have these kind of conversations that should be held in private, around someone like me, you will hear at some point in your life, Shut the Hell Up Damn it.  Just laugh at me, everyone else does, just don't tell me to shut the hell up damn it.

Why Don't They Get It?

Why don't the people who friend request you on facebook get it when you don't accept their request. The answer should be obvious but they keep on sending too you. I went as far as telling them stop contacting me or I will hunt you down and blow up your computer. What the hell. Now I will friend request, but if I don't get a reply or acceptance, I didn't want to be your friend anyway. I just wanted you to be someone to play poker and send me chips.
If you call someone, and they don't answer. Do not blow up their phone with text messages. If they don't answer the phone, they are not going to answer the text either. Get over it, they don't want to talk to you right now. You are not that important. I've got better things to do. Thanks but just go away. (I'm not that rude, much)
Why don't they get it about skinny jeans. I am wondering why people insist on wearing them. Okay, I could see if they made you look skinny, but the people who wear them are far from it. Lets just say Mushroom top and be done with that. Can you imagine a girl asking her guy "Do these jeans look okay?" How is a guy to respond if her legs look great but above the hips looks like a nuclear explosion just took place. And guys, I am so sorry to say, as a woman, you wearing them does nothing for me. I like a man in a pair of blue jeans that fit just right and show off the best side of a man. (if you don't get it ask any woman about it)
On the subject of clothing, wearing pants with something written on the ass is just stupid. Why don't they get it? I have seen sayings like princess, hottie, sweet. The one that got me was Holla At Me. I so wanted to really scream at this girl. That's what her pants told me to do. "Why don't you get it? You look stupid, your not hot and shouldn't be wearing pants like that." but I didn't. (my friend wouldn't let me be rude)
I am no fashionista if that is even how it is spelled. I could use some tips on how to dress. I am a blue jean and tee-shirt or tank top kinda girl.(although the tanks don't look so good right now) I can get dressed up and look good if I need too or trying to impress my husband.(not that I need to impress him) How do you dress in today's society, what is acceptable? For men its easy. For women you are too far left or too far right. Some women just don't care. (in other words, show everything and hope you don't get assaulted) Girls just remember to keep the sisters in check. Confine them to their proper place. Cleavage is okay to a point, too much and you are just asking some guy to try and score two points by throwing peanuts or beer caps down your front.(you know you cant take the child out of man no matter how hard you try)
Why don't they get that they don't need to be on every social network known to man. If you really want to meet someone. Get off your damn computer and go outside. If by chance you meet someone from online, have an exit plan in place. Before I met my husband 11 yrs ago, I tried online dating. There were some nice guys, but we didn't click. Then the duds. They looked nothing like the pic they posted that was from 1984. If you thought they seemed okay online, the first face to face would tell you the rest of their life. One guy, looked nothing like his pic. We met for coffee, and the first question out of his mouth was."Are those real?" as he stared at my chest. I said "Why yes they are, are your balls real or are they fake?" as I walked away. Oh did I mention that his pic showed a slim young man, the person who showed up was about 60lbs overweight and wore sweatpants and looked like his face had been run over by a international harvester. I don't know about you, but if they seem too good to be true online, it means they are far from being too good.

Final note on this. There are so many, Why don't they get it? What is your Why don't they get it? I could sit here all day and write about it, but then, its a nice day and my dog needs a walk. Just remember, your day would be so much better if you, Laugh at me everyone else does

Starting Over (for the umpteenth time)

Here is where I start the new year. Lets start with the three decisions I have made as of today. (no they are not new-years resolutions) First, I decided to go to school after 16 years. Second, quit smoking. (have patch,will travel) Last but not least, lose weight. Now some might say this is an impossible task. I have been told I am taking on too much to start, and one person says I am going to be a total bitch trying to do all three.(she shall remain nameless at this time)I already am a bitch so that don't matter to me. Maybe they are right. I have a habit of starting things and not following threw, but I am hoping by sharing some laughs along the way may help me keep this going. So here we go, and remember, Laugh at me everyone else does.

I made a choice to go back to school and take a totally different career path. I have worked in gas stations, restaurants, factories, and God know what else. This is almost out in left field. I am looking into going to school for Radiology. It is one step to what I really want to do. More on that later. Anyhow I think that this might be a good thing for me. I lack direction right now and school seems to be a good fit for me. Right now its information gathering, but going to admissions on Tuesday to find out what I need to do. (trying not to be neurotic about the whole thing) I don't want to panic before I have to panic. I probably will have a panic attack before too long. Its not pretty. I swear at people and throw things and call little old ladies unspeakable names.(especially if they are driving in front of me, I want to run them over) I.H.S.F.P.

I am also about to embark on the smoke-free journey. I am 47 yrs old and have smoked at least if not more than three quarters of my life.(I figure if I quit, I can be around long enough to drive my grandchildren nuts) I'm not quitting because my doctor told me to, or because of peer pressure. Its because I am so sick of my mother-in-law telling me that I should quit because of the money and my health.(I love her but she can be a pain sometimes,and in this case she is mostly right but don't tell her that) I am quitting because I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. Quitting is the only choice right now. I want to wake up and be able to breath. I usually just wake up and cough up a lung. (great way to start a day). Stay tuned, I might have a complete breakdown before all is said and done. I don't put aside becoming homicidal at any point in time.(I wont kill, but I might maim someone) Cant take all my fun.
How the hell did I gain 40lbs in eight years. I use to weight 125lbs. (do not state the obvious)The B.M.I (for those who don't know what that is Body Mass Index) is telling me I am obese. I am at 33% B.M.I. That makes me 35 lbs over weight. (red hair and round body just don't go together.) I don't like the way I look, so it is time to change it. I want to be in a size 6 again. (4 would be better) but 6 is good. I am in a size 11/12. I do know what to do but, if anyone has helpful hints, they would be appreciated. (need all the help I can get) At one point in my life I looked good. Need to get that back. (If I look better I will feel better, I hope)
So I have this to ask. Am I crazy? Its best not to answer right now. I will ask in about 2 weeks when I think everything will fall apart.
Okay, I have a direction to go, I can get to where I want to go. I have the brains, I have support.(do I sound convincing?)