Friday, February 17, 2012

On a More Serious Note

Every Friday night, my husband, my mother-in-law and myself sit down and have dinner together. We have a chance to catch up on stuff that happened during the week. Most times, we laugh and pick on each other. Not tonight.

I did a blog that jumped on the Catholic Church.  I believe that the church should stay out of politics. Mainly because I am a woman. I believe that women should be able to determine what is best for them.  I am afraid that if religion plays a part in our government, a lot of women and girls could be in serious trouble.

The whole debate over birth control has got me thinking. My mother-in-law thinks that we shouldn't have to pay for it, that we need more morals and less birth control. I agree with the morals, not the less birth control. This is always a slippery slope when you have two opposing opinions in the same house. She was raised as a Catholic, and she also was born in a era that didn't have what we have now. I was a teenage mother, my mother and father didn't talk about sex or birth control with me until it was too late.

My neighbor and my husband chimed in on this subject. My husband is in the middle, my neighbors opinion bordered on a civil rights removal.  With so many different opinions out there on the matter, who is right? How do you make the majority happy without offending the minority?

I personally would tell every kid in America,  Wait. Wait until you are married. Be a responsible adult before you become a parent. To girls, have respect for yourself. Your life is in your hands, think about the consequences before you give yourself away. Wait until you are old enough to except what happens. Fall in love first, and I don't mean at 18, I mean after you are out of school and doing what makes you happy first. To the boys, same thing. Fall in love, make life for yourself before you commit to someone else. Believe in yourself. 

Now for those who wont wait, don't be stupid about it. Protect yourself and the one your with. Show at least that much respect for yourself and them.  There is so much out there, you can never be sure. Talk to your parents, if you cant, call your local clinic. Get informed. The best prevention is abstinence, if that isn't enough, the second best prevention is being informed. 

To the parents of kids today, talk to your kids. Listen to your kids. Be involved in what they are doing, know where they are going.  Find out who they are and what their dreams are, and help them reach their goals. Tell them no every now and then. Tell them your hopes and dreams for them, even if its not the same as their dreams. Take pride in you kids. No matter who they turn out to be.

If you talk to your kids about consequences, don't throw your beliefs in there, give them the facts.  You have raised them with your beliefs. If you push, it could backfire. Get on the internet, get news articles, show them what could happen. Kids are a lot smarter then most people give the credit for. Inform them, but don't just show one side, show them all.  This way, no matter what they decide to do, you have armed them with knowledge. That is the greatest gift you can give your kids. 

To the politicians out there, have the courtesy to put the greater good before your beliefs or you political agenda. You are putting lives at risk.  All the time we spend fighting about this, a girl or a woman is dealing with the dilemma of having a baby, or getting rid of a baby. If you let the church decide what is considered in women's health care, you risk more than the vote of some, you risk the lives of many.

Just a note before I go.  I do believe in God.  God and I have an understanding, I talk, he listens, he understands. Never in the whole time I have spent talking to him, he has never told me what I can or cannot do. He leaves that up to me.  Take the time to consider all the possibilities. 

Everyone has a right to their opinion. This is just mine. Thanks for taking the time to read it.

Melissa





Shut up Damn it!!!!!

Disclaimer- This is just my opinion.


I was in class last week, trying to learn something. I thought that is what going to college was all about.  Now seeing that I am an older adult, I go in and act like an adult. I sit, take notes, participate in class discussions.  Now you would think this was just like its suppose to be, in college. I had two people in this class that were talking about everything else except the what was going on in class. This got me thinking about all the people I would love to see stop talking.


Lately I feel that most people need to shut the hell up.  I want to start with every one of the republican candidates. Please shut the hell up.  You are not going to get elected to the highest office in the country, you know this, and its all your own faults. You are so busy bashing each other you have lost the big picture. You don't have a clue as to what this country needs. Mitt has too much money, Newt is a swinger, Ron is too damn old, and Rick, I have one statement for you, Birth Control. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, stop telling me what mine should be. To the Republican Candidates, Shut the Hell Up Damn It!!!!!!  


The Catholic Church needs to shut the hell up damn it. Stay out of my government, I don't want you there, you don't belong there, and if I wanted to be dictated to I would have stayed married to my ex-husband.  Okay, I am for same sex marriage, and as Bill Maher said, once your married its all the same sex anyway, why should they be any different.  I am for the insurance companies having to cover birth control, no matter if the company they are covering is a religious organization. It's a shame they don't see that there are so many dumb ass women out there that should not reproduce. I think god might agree with me on this.  I should know, He told me. (if you don't get that, ask George Bush)  


Bill O'Reilly needs to shut the fuck up. If that man had a half of a brain, he would be dangerous, better yet it would be an improvement. Better yet just keep your foot in your mouth. Nancy Grace needs to shut the hell up so other people can talk.  You ever watch her show. If you don't agree with her, she cuts you off like Lorranea Bobbit.  Mitt Romney, Please shut the hell up. Nobody likes you and your a Moron, oops I mean Mormon. We don't care what you think. Sarah Palin, I don't know where to start with you. I am really wondering though, what the hell was in your tea at the tea party. Shut the fuck up! Roseanne Barr, Shut the hell up, your voice is grating and annoying.  I get more laughs in a deaf community than you get with people who can hear you. And most of all, Kim Kardashian, We don't care about your 72 day marriage, your boob job, your perfume line, your clothing line or anything else that you have in store for your adoring public. Most people cant afford your cloths, your perfume smells like horseshit, and your chest gets where your going a week before you actually get there. You don't have a brain, so don't act like you do. Oh that's right, you cant act either. You need to Shut the Fuck up damn it!!!!!  


You see, this is what is wrong with our country.  All the people I named are who you see everyday see in the media. There are also people who you want to tell to shut the hell up everyday.  Go ahead, talk about your sex life, as long as you don't talk about it in the line at the grocery store. Talk about how you puked at a party, just not in my class that I am paying for. Talk about your drug addiction, not when I am trying to pay for gas.   You see, if you do have these kind of conversations that should be held in private, around someone like me, you will hear at some point in your life, Shut the Hell Up Damn it.  Just laugh at me, everyone else does, just don't tell me to shut the hell up damn it.